Roles of a Parent & Creating a Legacy for the Future – Part 2

4. Guide – – – The difference between a guide and a commander is ——> “Do you follow any line of authority/chain of command or not in the process. And, whether do you have punishment system, if something goes wrong.” A guide has no such chain of commands or any authority. The relationship between a learner and the guide is based om ethics of equality. There is no such thing as punishment system when you are guiding a person.

Parents are the first guide for their children, who can bring a big positive change in their kids, if they learn to guide their kids effectively.

First year of age is letting kid learn from the nature; crawling, pulling, pushing, touching, sensing, listening etc. After that, kid needs guidance of parents to have a happy and productive experience of things in life without facing serious consequences. Parents could use lessons learnt from their own experience and mistakes to teach their kids. Kids do not have to go through the series of various trial and error to learn something new; instead parents can guide kids from the experience learnt through past mistakes.

A guide also lets the learner do mistakes, but alerts the learner about serious possible consequences. This would save learner from falling into serious consequences and to use it to have more productive learning experiences.

Examples –

Parents can guide kids to play safe. Kids love to play safe, but are unaware of consequences of unsafe playing practices. Parents can guide kids to play safely and observe whether kids are complying with safety protocol developed by both and parents. It is advised to sit and talk with your kid about safety protocol while playing out or holding any tool or items at home. Example – Parents can guide their kid how to hold scissors, forks at home and never to run with those items in hand. It is parent’s responsibility to make sure that kid is obliging basic safety protocol and remind kid, if, kid forgets to comply.

Parents can guide kids to explore garden; touch grass, thorn, insects, flowers etc. Kid can learn better about nature around, if kid gets a proper guidance and would love to be with nature. Kids do not know how to touch aforementioned things gently and might hurt themselves as well as creatures during their garden exploration. Parents can guide kid to be gentle while touching insects and always respect plants and flowers. Parents can also teach kid to explore things with their eyes first, and then only with hand. This guidance would help any kid to be a great nature lover and admirer of things in the nature without hurting anything in nature.

5. Teacher – – – We all remember that teacher, who used to impress us in our classes with his/her amusing skills to teach a complex topic in such an easy manner. At the same time, that teacher would make us laugh and help us boost our confidence and eliminate our fear with the subject and learning.

Parent need to be that teacher for their kid. Home is the first school for a kid and parents are the first teacher a kid would get exposed to. A good teacher would always try hard to teach difficult things in an easy way. Specially, with kids, parents need to learn the wise use of words, actions, expressions, things to teach kids. It is parents, who shall learn first the right process and methods. Then only, parents shall start teaching their kids. No parent is perfect, we all learn from each other, from books an our mistakes. But, be ready to learn and refine your parenting skills.

Never wait for the right age to teach anything to kids. Kids have super physical and mental power to learn any skill quickly. Swimming, cycling, skateboarding, balance bike riding, playing football, gardening, cooking food, sharing responsibility in family work, taking responsibility to do their own work, helping family to resolve issues and problems, doing math, discussing social/family/financial/national

/international/spiritual issues with kids. Kids can understand all of these topics very well; it is up to parents how they explain using examples to teach about these topic and how funny they can make these topic to get attention/focus of kids.

In advance societies, parents teach all the basic skills to kids from an early age. The early doing of these activities would help them to develop their gross and fine motor skills, emotional, skills, team work, planning, opinion

sharing, sharing knowledge with others, improvisation etc. Imagine, a kid learning all the skills from early age would refine all the skills to so much extent that, that kid would surpass your knowledge and skill level; which is the ultimate goal of a parent ——— to share your knowledge and skill to your kids so that they become 10 times better human and expert than yourself.

To know more, Don’t forget to check Part 3 of “Roles of a parent & creating a legacy for the Future”.

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