Roles of a Parent & Creating a Legacy for the future – Part 1

For most of the couples, it is fairly easy to have kids. But, most of the couples have no idea about how to be a good parent. They belive that providing food, water, toys, school education and bed is enough for kids. Very less parents have idea that parents too have to learn new set of skills before have kids and hone themselves to be the best parent. Being a best parent has no relation with earning great amount of money and showering on kids.

There is no value of parent’s life, if parents could not be able to transfer their knowledge, skill and experience to their kids (biggest assets and legacy) which would lead them to have a sucessful, healthy and prosperous life. Also, Do you want your kids to be the photocopy of yourself or the best version of a human being??????????????????

Actually, Most of the parents never realize that they could be more than parents only. They could play followings while raising their kids —

1. Friend – – – Parents shall consider themselves as friend of their kids.

A True Friend care what other friends are thinking.

A True Friend supports good habits/good attitudes of friends.

A True Friend is honest to friends, while giving opinion, solving issues and helping friends.

A True Friend helps friends to be successful and prosperous.

Parents have to be friend of their kids too, with whom kid would share all the feelings. It needs you to build up the trust with your kids. Parents are advised to be playful with their kids from an early age, never expect senior/junior status with kids, participate in each activity of kids (playing football, drawing, playing with toys, observing things and studying them, teaching defence skills, friendly wrestling skills, watching programmes on TV, listening songs, making funny faces, making funny sounds, touching insects, playing with grass, strolling, riding bikes, playing with dough, doing science experiements at home, doing exercise, being humorous, painting, preparing food at home, managing things at home, doing the dishes/laundry, doign homework etc.)

If, you are able to build a strong trust by the age the kid is 5 years old, the trust and honesty between you and your kid is going to last forever. Age 0-5 years is the time to build principles and values in life a kid. Parent being a friend of their kid would be very helpful to teach basic principles (Love, Knowledge, Strength and Prosperity) and values (honesty, caring, empathy, sharing, hard working, creativity, confidence, integrity, friendship etc.) in life and apply them in daily life.

It is advised to parents that, “you have to walk your talk and you have to live by your words which you expect kid to do in his/her life.” Otherwise, you could never be a good example of true friend who expect best from others, but ignores all for himself/herself.

Being a friend of your kid would help you to understand good/better/best as well as bad things happening in their life.

Example ——Maybe a bully is teasing your kid, maybe your kid is hurt with some teacher’s action in the class. You would never know these thing shappening to your kid, unless you are a true friend of your kid, with whom he/she would share feelings.

2. Listener – – – Listening is great skill and can help you to solve many issues in your life. Listening needs patience to listen other person, process the information and make a judgement/give an opinion/give feedback. When you have great listening habit; it means your have great patience and a lot of people come to oyu to share their problem and expect a feedback.

Parents are advised to listen their kids first all the time. When a kid is speaking then you have a responsibility to listen him/her. Never hush/make the kid quiet. It takes a great deal of courage and energy to ask a question and expect other to give a feedback. But, at the same time, don’t forget to teach kids to have patience to wait and ask permission before interrupting and ask a question.

Example —— Does it sound great when a person asks ===== “Excuse me, Can i ask you something?” OR “Excuse me, Could you please tell about this?”. We all have queries/questions, but patience to wait in the queue and seeking answers with correct method would enhance a person’s social skills.

Similary, a parent shall never interrupt a kid when he/she is talking and listen diligently. Once kid finish talking, then you can candidly give your opinion with proper examples. Never expect a kid to agree with you. Kids would copy your listening skills silently and apply it in their daily life. Great listening skills would help your kids to have many friends in their life because a True friend is also a great listener.

3. Team member – – – Team has a leader, followers, tracker, feedback giver etc. Parents shall consider their kid as their team member and expect them to take a role and understand obligations of that role.

Parents can always team up do tasks; mopping, sweeping, doing the dishes, managing the bed, cleaning house, taking our the trash, gardening, building, cooking food, doing the laundry, handling your work, managing your business, participating/helping in rituals and ceremonies (funerals, birthday parties, social events) etc.

Most of parents do not have idea that teaming up with their kids from an early age would teach various skills to their kids; good listening habits, patience, being creative, hard working, being responsible, accountability, sharing, leading skills, problem solving skills etc.

Example —-

Parents could ask their kids =====

“Would you like to help to clean the house?”

“Would you like to take the lead in this task and we can finish quicker and watch something on the TV?”

“Hey! we need a team member for this job and what role would you like to take?”

“Would you like to be a great chef and Guru in cooking, you can help us in mixing, segregating, arranging and decorating?”

“We need a member in our team Marvel/Team nature to dig up holes to plant and uproot weed in the farm. Would you be our new superhero member?“

Thanks for reading the blog…………Don’t forget to check the Part 2 about “Roles of responsible parents in creating a legacy”